Self-Realisation, Uncategorized

Skiing out of bounds

Some people find a thrill in going under the rope and skiing on the cliffs or other terrain outside the ski area.

They’ll tell you that the runs are better.

But if the ski area extends the boundaries, suddenly those spots aren’t as attractive. Now, it’s the next bit that’s seductive.

Because the thrill comes from the out of bounds part, not the skiing part.

A different feeling with a similar boundary issue is the magic of a first class seat. It doesn’t matter that first class seats are often smaller than they used to be. What matters is that they’re better than coach.

“Compared to what,” is often the cornerstone of our narrative.

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Inciteful

The right answer might not be the best thing you can say.

Perhaps it would be better if you could help your friend take action instead. The acts of finding and doing are almost always more useful than getting good advice.

Inciting action is often better than contributing insight. Better to move forward and figure it out than to stand still and believe you know the right answer.

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Self-Realisation

There is no right answer

But there are plenty of wrong ones.

In arithmetic, there’s a right answer. And everything else is wrong.

But in the work we do, there are, in fact, plenty of creative, useful, generous answers, answers good enough to embrace and celebrate. In the creative world, there can’t be a ‘right’ answer, because that implies that the answer is correct and exclusive.

But the wrong answers are clear as well. They are selfish, lack rigor, are short-term when long-term is needed. They’re lazy, too expensive, defective or have significant side effects…

By all means, avoid the wrong answers. But don’t hold out waiting for the correct one.

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Self-Realisation

Finding the thread

Unraveling has precisely the same meaning as raveling… when we pull on a thread, pull and pull, as it unweaves what came before.

It’s nice to have the next thing clearly laid out, planned and sure to work.

It would make our projects and our art and our plans a lot more secure.

More often, though, we have to ravel for quite a while before we have enough to work with.

Nothing is ready when we need it to be, but that merely means we have to begin earlier.

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Self-Realisation

The other person is always right

Always right about feelings.

About the day he just experienced.

About the fears (appropriate and ill-founded) in his life.

About the narrative going on, unspoken, in his head.

About what he likes and what he dislikes.

You’ll need to travel to this place of ‘right’ before you have any chance at all of actual communication.

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Self-Realisation

Compliance is quite different from contribution

Organized bureaucracies thrive on compliance. It makes it easier to tell people what to do.

But contribution is the only way that tribes thrive, the best way to make change happen and the essence of being part of a community.

It’s a shame that we spend so much time teaching our children (and our employees) to comply. Far better to seek out contribution instead.

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