Self-Realisation, Uncategorized

Winner take all

Really?

Almost nothing in our daily lives is actually a winner take all competition.

Somewhere, there’s someone fitter, faster, thinner, quicker, smarter, more popular or richer than you. And there’s someone else fitter, faster, thinner, quicker, smarter, more popular or richer than they are. And you’re (far) ahead of someone else who is busy looking at you from behind.

And yet we see people angry because someone’s passing their car, or gaining more followers online. They mistakenly believe it’s a race. It rarely is.

If you can use your situation as fuel, fuel to dig in and care more and do better, by all means.

But if not, ignore it. Do your work, not theirs.

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Self-Realisation, Uncategorized

Worth being afraid of

We’re pretty good at finding demons to be afraid of.

The other.
The one in the shadows.
Change.
The family member we can’t possibly please.
Competition.
Critics.
The invisible network of foes conspiring against us and what we stand for.
It turns out, though, that the one who usually lets us down is us.

Our unwillingness to leap, to commit, to trust our own abilities.

It’s the internal narrative that seeks disaster just as much as it craves reassurance.

That’s the one we ought to be vilifying, fortifying ourselves against and frightened of.

It gets less powerful once we are brave enough to look it in the eye.

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Self-Realisation, Uncategorized

Worth reconsidering ?

The status quo is powerful indeed. We add layers, patches and small improvisations, all to shore up something we don’t want to reconsider.

If we had a clean sheet of paper, and could design something that actually worked, what would we do about:

Big-time college sports
School taxes based on location, and school spending based on income
Development costs, transparency and patents related to pharmaceuticals
The Electoral College and gerrymandering
Allocation of electromagnetic spectrum
Stagnant oligopolies
What’s taxed and what’s not
School curriculum
Online identity
Infrastructure priorities
The free market doesn’t always do things as well as an enlightened institution can. And institutions often need our help to become more enlightened.

Sometimes, we need to take a deep breath and decide to do it again, better.

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Self-Realisation

Creating discomfort

If you’re seeking to create positive change in your community, it’s almost certain you’ll be creating discomfort as well.

Want to upgrade the local playground? It sounds like it will be universally embraced by parents and everyone who cares about kids. Except that you now bring up issues of money, of how much is enough, of safety. Change is uncomfortable.

It’s way easier to talk about today’s weather, or what you had for lunch.

Usually, when we’re ready to launch something, we say, “this is going to help people, this is well crafted, I’m proud of it.”

What’s a lot more difficult (but useful) is to say all of that plus, “and this is going to make (some) people uncomfortable.”

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Self-Realisation

The best of us (the worst of us)

When we join an organization and become part of something, collisions happen. Standards change.

Sometimes, these tribal affiliations push us to become better versions of ourselves. We take a long-term view, check our selfish impulses and work hard to meet the high standards of those around us.

But if we’re not careful, we can join a group that indulges in our selfishness, one that pushes us to be callous or short-sighted. To become part of the mob, or the insolent bystanders.

There’s nothing inherent in the way humans associate that will lead to one or the other. But once on the path, the culture is difficult to change…

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Self-Realisation

When does the water get hot?

If you want a hot shower, you’ll need to turn on the hot water a bit before you step inside. It can take a while for the hot water to rise up and clear the cold water from the pipes.

The thing is, though, that if you mistakenly turn the cold water tap instead, it’ll never get hot. No matter how long you wait.

Sometimes, it takes us too long to realize that we shouldn’t wait any longer and might consider checking if we turned on the wrong tap.

Nothing good comes from impatiently jumping from one approach to another, one grand scheme replaced by another. But persistently sticking with a plan that goes nowhere is almost as bad. The art of making a difference begins with thinking hard about when it’s time to move on. The Dip is real, but there are dead ends everywhere.

Sometimes, the world is telling us it’s time to leap.

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Self-Realisation

Say one thing at a time

I know, you might not get the microphone back for a while.

And I know, you want to make sure everyone understands precisely what went into your thinking. Not to mention your desire to make sure that everyone who hears you hears something that they’d like to hear.

But if you try to say three things, we will hear nothing. Because most of the time, we’re hardly listening.

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