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But how much does it cost?

I know what the price tag says. But what does it cost? Does it need dry cleaning? What does it eat? How long does the training take? What happens when it breaks? Where will I store it? What’s the productivity … Continue reading

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Widespread confusion about what it takes to be strong

Sometimes we confuse strength with: Loudness Brusqueness An inability to listen A resistance to seeing the world as it is An unwillingness to compromise small things to accomplish big ones Fast talking Bullying External unflappability Callousness Lying Policies instead of … Continue reading

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Skills vs. talents

If you can learn it, it’s a skill. If it’s important, but innate, it’s a talent. The thing is, almost everything that matters is a skill. If even one person is able to learn it, if even one person is … Continue reading

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In search of a palliative

A palliative is a treatment that soothes even if it can’t cure the illness. By all means, whenever you can, fix the problem, go to the root cause, come up with a better design… But when you can’t (and that’s … Continue reading

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The second time you create that breakthrough

…it only takes a few minutes. Because it’s not a breakthrough. Breakthroughs are slow because you don’t know how to do it… Re-creation is fast, because you already know how. The art of the breakthrough is the practice of figuring … Continue reading

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A drop in the bucket

When you buy a glass of wine at a nice restaurant, it doesn’t come in a beer stein. If it did, the 4 ounces would be dwarfed by the glass and you’d feel like your host was ungenerous. Closets, it … Continue reading

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Living with what happens next

Most people are okay with living with the consequences of what happens. The hard part is living with our narrative about how it happened and why. If your plane is late and you miss the meeting and you don’t close … Continue reading

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Managing the gap

There’s a space between where you are now and where you want to be, ought to be, are capable of being. A gap between your reality and your possibility. Imagine that space as a gulf or a chasm and you’ll … Continue reading

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The foggy mirror

Most people can’t resist a mirror. It makes the wait for an elevator more palatable, and we can’t help checking–how do I look? In many ways, though, this is futile, because we can never know how we look through other … Continue reading

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Transformation tourism

“I bought the diet book, but ate my usual foods.” “I filled the prescription, but didn’t take the meds.” “I took the course… well, I watched the videos… but I didn’t do the exercises in writing.” Merely looking at something … Continue reading

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