Uncategorized, Self-Realisation

Outsiders

You can’t have insiders unless you have outsiders.

And you can’t have winners unless you have losers.

That doesn’t mean that you’re required to create insiders and winners. All it means is that when people begin to measure themselves only in comparison to others (“How did I rank?”) then you need to accept the impact of those choices.

It’s entirely possible to be happy and engaged and productive without creating this dynamic. But in a culture based on scarcity, it’s often easier to award or deduct points and to keep a scoreboard instead.

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Self-Realisation

Money for nothing

A friend asked me for some ways to make money. (All direct quotes).

“Can I do okay taking those surveys where they pay me?”

“What about buying or trading shirts from Supreme and then selling them?”

“Do you think I can get paid $50 an hour to be a dog walker?”

“Is listening to some famous person and investing in an ICO a shortcut to riches?”

The thing is, almost all the easy shortcuts are taken. And the problem is that the ones that aren’t taken are hiding really well among a forest of scams and ripoffs. [Please read this before you invest in any ICO or Bitcoin-related offering. Run away!]

Or how about,

“How can I get an agent for my screenplay,” or

“Where do I find a publisher who will pay me a big advance for my first novel?”

Your best work isn’t nothing, it’s the heart of what you have to offer. Finding the long, difficult way is worth the journey, because it’s the best way to get what you deserve.

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Self-Realisation, Uncategorized

Winner take all

Really?

Almost nothing in our daily lives is actually a winner take all competition.

Somewhere, there’s someone fitter, faster, thinner, quicker, smarter, more popular or richer than you. And there’s someone else fitter, faster, thinner, quicker, smarter, more popular or richer than they are. And you’re (far) ahead of someone else who is busy looking at you from behind.

And yet we see people angry because someone’s passing their car, or gaining more followers online. They mistakenly believe it’s a race. It rarely is.

If you can use your situation as fuel, fuel to dig in and care more and do better, by all means.

But if not, ignore it. Do your work, not theirs.

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Self-Realisation

The best way to stand for something

The best way to build a brand that matters, a story that spreads, an impact that we remember, is to understand a simple but painful trade-off:

If you want to stand for something,

You can’t stand for everything.

“Anyone can be our customer and we will get you what you want…” is almost impossible to pull off. So is, “we are the cheapest and the most convenient and the best.”

It didn’t work for Sears, or for Chevrolet or for Radio Shack. It definitely doesn’t work for the local freelancer, eager to do whatever is asked.

Relentlessly trimming what’s on offer, combined with a resolute willingness to say, “no,” are two characteristics of great brands. And linchpins, too.

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Self-Realisation

Pushiness

Deliberate, focused, generous, confident, thoughtful, these are all good things. Being pushy isn’t.

Imagine you had a check for $100,000 made out to someone else. Someone you don’t know but can reach out to. How hard would it be for you to cajole this person to take the check from you and cash it?

We call someone pushy when they are trying harder for forward motion than we are. We call them pushy when they have more at stake, or more to gain, than we think we do.

It’s easy to rationalize your pushiness, imagining that the other person really wants to do this project. And it’s just as easy to minimize the value you add, hiding in a corner instead of bringing your value forward.

Pushiness is in the eye of the beholder. Generosity requires that we be aware of how the other person is feeling about the forward motion we’re trying to make.

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Self-Realisation

The other kind of power move

In the common vernacular, a power move is something that gets done to you.

The person with power demands an accommodation, or switches the venue, or has an admin call you instead of calling you himself. Someone with a resource who makes you jump a little higher before he shares it…

Little diva-like gestures to reinforce who has the upper hand.

But what about moves that are based on connection, or generosity, or kindness?

Those take real power.

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