Category Archives: Self-Realisation

The professional pushes back

The architect refuses to design the big, ugly building that merely maximizes short term revenue. She understands that raising the average is part of her job. The surgeon refuses to do needless surgery, no matter how much the client insists. … Continue reading

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But how much does it cost?

I know what the price tag says. But what does it cost? Does it need dry cleaning? What does it eat? How long does the training take? What happens when it breaks? Where will I store it? What’s the productivity … Continue reading

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The opposite of the freeloader problem

Is the freegiver advantage. Freeloaders, of course, are people who take more than they give, drains on the system. But the opposite, the opposite is magical. These are the people who feed the community first, who give before taking, who … Continue reading

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Big fish in a little pond

There’s no doubt that the big fish gets respect, more attention and more than its fair share of business as a result. The hard part of being a big fish in a little pond isn’t about being the right fish. … Continue reading

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Widespread confusion about what it takes to be strong

Sometimes we confuse strength with: Loudness Brusqueness An inability to listen A resistance to seeing the world as it is An unwillingness to compromise small things to accomplish big ones Fast talking Bullying External unflappability Callousness Lying Policies instead of … Continue reading

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Skills vs. talents

If you can learn it, it’s a skill. If it’s important, but innate, it’s a talent. The thing is, almost everything that matters is a skill. If even one person is able to learn it, if even one person is … Continue reading

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Looking for the trick

When you find a trick, a shortcut, a hack that gets you from here to there without a lot of sweat or risk, it’s really quite rewarding. So much so that many successful people are hooked on the trick, always … Continue reading

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Anxiety loves company

Somehow, at least in our culture, we find relief when others are anxious too. So we spread our anxiety, stoking it in other people, looking for solace in the fear in their eyes. And thanks to the media, to the … Continue reading

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Wedding syndrome

Running a business is a lot more important than starting one. Choosing and preparing for the job you’ll do for the next career is a much more important task than getting that job. Serving is more important than the campaign. … Continue reading

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The ripples

Every decision we make changes things. The people we befriend, the examples we set, the problems we solve… Sometimes, if we’re lucky, we get to glimpse those ripples as we stand at the crossroads. Instead of merely addressing the urgency … Continue reading

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