Self-Realisation

Make something great

Not because it will sell.

Not because it’s on the test.

Not because it’s your job.

Merely because you can.

The alternative (waiting for the world to align in a way that permits you to make something great) is hardly worth pursuing, right?

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Self-Realisation

Three things to keep in mind about your reputation

Your reputation has as much impact on your life as what you actually do.
Early assumptions about you are sticky and are difficult to change.
The single best way to maintain your reputation is to do things you’re proud of. Gaming goes only so far.
In a connection economy, what other people think about you, their expectations of you, the promises they believe you make—this is your brand. It’s easy to imagine that good work is its own reward, but good work is only of maximum value when people get your reputation right, and they usually get that from others, not directly from you.

It’s logical, then, to care about how your reputation is formed. But it’s dangerous, I think, to decide that it’s worth spending a lot of time gaming the system, to consistently work hard to make your reputation better than you actually are.

There is one exception: The most important step you can take when entering a new circle, a new field or a new network is to take vivid steps to establish a reputation. This is the new kid who stands up to a bully the first day of school, or a musician who holds off on a first single until she’s got something to say. They say you never get a second chance to make a first impression, but what most people do is make no impression at all.

That reputation needs to be one you can live with for the long haul, because you’ll need to.

As the social networks make it more and more difficult for people to have a significant gap between reputation and reality (hence gossip), the single best strategy appears to be as you are, or more accurately, to live the life you’ve taught people to expect from you.

Your reputation isn’t merely based on your work, it’s often the result of biases and expectations that existed before you even showed up. That’s not fair but it’s certainly true. Now that we see that the structures exist, each of us has the ability to over-invest in activities and behaviors that maximize how we’ll be seen by others before we arrive.

Be your reputation, early and often, and you’re more likely to have a reputation you’re glad to own.

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Self-Realisation

The Choice

Attitude is the most important choice any of us will make. We made it yesterday and we get another choice to make it today. And then again tomorrow.

The choice to participate.

To be optimistic.

To intentionally bring out the best in other people.

We make the choice to inquire, to be curious, to challenge the status quo.

To give people the benefit of the doubt.

To find hope instead of fear in the face of uncertainty.

Of course these are attitudes. What else could they be?

And of course, they are a choice. No one does these things to us. We choose them and do the work (and find the benefits) that come with them.

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Self-Realisation

Wondering—past and future

Wondering about your past, about what might have happened, about bad decisions made and roads not taken… this is a recipe for not much more than regret.

But wondering about your future?

When we wonder about the future, we get a chance to begin again, to set new goals and envision bold plans.

No more chances to do yesterday over, sorry. But infinite chances for tomorrow.

If you could do tomorrow over again, would you?

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Self-Realisation

Crossing the awareness threshold

The blockchain, game theory, float tanks, turmeric, Justin Trudeau, Joi Ito, dal fry, thermite, the Corbomite Maneuver… these are all notions (people, ideas, technologies, foods) that you may or may not be aware of or have engaged with.

There’s a path:

Unaware
Aware
Categorized
Have an opinion
Experienced
Have a new opinion
Have shared that opinion and are thus locked in
It’s pretty clear that most the world is unaware of you and your work.

Once someone becomes aware of it, they’ll probably leave it at that. “Oh.” Because we’re busy. And afraid of the new, because it often causes us to change our minds, which is frightening and difficult.

But sometimes, the culture or our work gives us no choice but to engage. We begin by putting this new thing into a category, so we know what to do with it, how to store the concept. Often, that’s immediately followed by forming an opinion.

It’s a huge leap, then, to go from, “Yuck, they make protein bars out of crickets,” to, “I am going to try one.”

After an experience, it’s possible for a new opinion to be formed. But we like to be right, so that first opinion often sticks around.

And finally, seven steps in, it’s possible that the word will spread, that awareness will be shared, that we’ll tell someone else. And so the awareness barrier is crossed again, and the idea spreads, and opinions are truly locked in.

Some of these stages happen in clumps. Sometimes they take months or years to occur. How much time passed between the day you became aware that hockey was a spectator sport and the first time you went to a game?

We benefit when we’re aware of how our idea will work its way through all seven stages, and cognizant that the process is different depending on the category, the culture and the people we’re engaging with. Do it on purpose.

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Self-Realisation

Is kindness a luxury?

Luxury goods are only consumed when we’ve got enough. You shouldn’t go shopping for a Birkin bag with your last dollar.

It’s easy to believe that kindness is like that. We need more reserves, perhaps, before we can expend some of what we’ve got in this generous way.

You’ve had a hard day, it’s raining out, the world is changing, your boss is mean to you, the checking account is overdrawn, you’re on deadline…

But… Does every need have to be filled, every emotion in place before we’re capable of being kind?

Do we have to have enough money, enough confidence about the future and enough of everything else we crave before we can find the space to offer someone else a hand?

It turns out that the opposite is true. That kindness is a foundation for the rest. That investing time and resources in extending ourselves shifts the rest of our needs in precisely the right direction, not only putting us closer to satisfying those other needs, but enjoying the journey as well.

Kindness rewards the giver as well.

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Agency

There are institutions, professionals and organizations that would like you to believe that you don’t have much choice in the matter.

They want to take away your agency, because it makes their job easier or their profits higher.

But you have more choice than you know.

More ability to shop around, or to skip that procedure altogether. More rights to read the fine print or not sign that document at all.

Mostly, the agency to say yes and to say no, to choose your own course, to not do what everyone else is doing.

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