The fundamental mismatch error

“It’s me, not you.”

vs.

“It’s you, not me.”

What happens when you’re unable to serve a customer well, or engage with an employee, or work with a partner?

One instinct is to blame the other person, that your art doesn’t match their expectations, and they ought to change, or leave.

And the other is to put the blame on oneself, to state that, “it’s up to me to change to make them happy.”

Either might be true.

For some people, that’s hard to swallow, but it’s true.

If you’re not getting what you seek from the work you do, it could be because your instinct is to go too far in one direction, a belief that doesn’t help you very much.

Blame too many other people and you become a lonely diva, bitter and alone.

Blame yourself too often and you become a wishy-washy panderer to the masses.

Mismatches have to happen. The opportunity is in dealing with them in a way that leads you (and your publics) to the place you want to go.

Reblogged from: here

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About janaknmistry

Janak is a 1984 born, MSc and MBA educated from Mumbai, India. He is an avid traveller by choice and a solopreneur by luck. He has clocked many thousands of kilometres on a motorcycle. It was his journey to the Leh-Ladakh, which motivated him to write about his experiences throughout the journey in enjoying the beauty, pain and hardships. He has successful authored and published his book called “Journey in Time with Timeless Memories” which is released and published in Germany and available all over the world besides Asia and the Middle East. Apart from being an author he is an active book reviewer too and have reviewed books by some of the established authors in USA. Janak runs a motorcycle expedition co. called Jack n Jill-The Moto Expedition Co. He is passionate about travelling and photography, which helps him find a beauty and meaning in this wide busy world. It was his journey to the Leh-Ladakh which motivated him to write about his experiences throughout the journey in enjoying the beauty, pain and hardships. He is passionate about travelling and photography which helps him find a beauty and meaning in this wide busy world.
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