A bias for trust

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Two very simple truths:

a. Don’t waste your time initiating relationships that aren’t going to thrive and benefit both sides.

b. Productive connection requires mutual trust. You can’t empathize with someone you don’t trust.

If you enter an engagement filled with wariness, alert for the scam, the inauthentic and the selfish, you’ll poison the relationship before it even starts. Those you deal with won’t be challenged to rise to your expectations of excitement and goodwill. Instead, they’ll struggle in the face of your skepticism.

Instead of seeking and amplifying the sharp edges, consider focusing on the dignity and goodwill of the people you’re working with.

Sure, there are people out there who will disappoint you. But expecting to be ripped off poisons all your interactions instead of saving you from a few dead ends.

An open mind and an open heart usually lead to precisely that in those that you are about to deal with. Perhaps we should give people a chance to live up to our trust instead of looking for the gotcha.

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Travellers Pinch-Dream Ride to Leh

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lu00xHg6mQY

It feels great in Celebrating one year to this very epic trip. Please do enjoy the video and drop in your comments. It would be great to have more suggestions, ideas about anything you all wish to talk on.

If you wish to read about what happened on this very journey please follow the link.

Enjoy the moments for they might never come back !

The end of should

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Banks should close at 4, books should be 200 pages long, CEOs should go to college, blogs should have comments, businessmen should be men, big deals should be done by lawyers, good food should be processed, surgeons should never advertise, hit musicians should be Americans, good employees should work at the same company for years…

Find your should and make it go away.

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I know what you should do

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Actually, I don’t.

I know what I would do in this situation, but I’m not you.

I know what your customer should do, but I’m not her.

I know (and you know, and we all know) what we would do in a given situation, but that’s not the same thing.

Empathy requires something extremely difficult: accepting the fact that we are not and never will be in the other person’s shoes. There’s no rational, universal course because individuals have different goals, different worldviews and different experiences.

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The best way to get unstuck

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Don’t wait for the right answer and the golden path to present themselves.

This is precisely why you’re stuck. Starting without seeing the end is difficult, so we often wait until we see the end, scanning relentlessly for the right way, the best way and the perfect way.

The way to get unstuck is to start down the wrong path, right now.

Step by step, page by page, interaction by interaction. As you start moving, you can’t help but improve, can’t help but incrementally find yourself getting back toward your north star.

You might not end up with perfect, but it’s significantly more valuable than being stuck.

Don’t just start. Continue. Ship. Repeat.

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Travellers Pinch-Highest road in the world

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Inspired by Alex Chacon’s GoPro travels through the Pan American Trail. GoPro Production Artists James Kirkham and Zak Shelhamer join Alex in India on a journey from Jaipur to the highest road in the world, Khardung La.

Shot 100% on the HD HERO3+® camera from http://GoPro.com.

Music
Head:Green Hands:Blue “The Language I Was Wading in”
http://headgreenhandsblue.bandcamp.com/

The Family Crest “Love Don’t Go”
http://goo.gl/a5nBPK

ExtremeMusic
http://extrememusic.com

Cold reading

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Psychics, advertisers and coaches work hard to create interactions that feel direct. They’d like you to think that their work is about you, (lots of people thought that the song was actually about them) that they know what you’re thinking and what you want.

The tsunami of data available online makes this easier than ever. It’s not hard to buy data, not only about your demographics, but about how you spend your time on the web.

Which means that it seems as though that site or this ad is just for you. What could be better?

The important distinction is this: the content might be for you, but it’s not necessarily aboutyou. Take what you need, but ignore the rest.

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